Help Your Aspergers Autistic Child To Change to Positive Behavior

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Children build strategies just as adults do, and the important thing to remember is that behavior is directly linked to the strategy a child uses. This includes autistic children, and it means that if you change the strategy, then the behavior will change too.

Poor Strategy = Poor Behavior
Good Strategy = Good Behavior

So if you can help your autistic child change her strategy, then she can change negative behavior into positive behavior. In order to do this you have to go back to the primary sense system ( visual , auditory or kinesthetic), and your knowledge of the sense systems in general.

Well, it is these primary sense systems that are used to create a strategy. All the primary sense systems factor in, and when it comes to behavior, you will see that the strategy involved usually uses a combination of the primary sense systems.

Let’s use the example of violent behavior toward classmates. You know she is behaving in this manner so that she can be removed from the classroom, and through a discussion you determine her strategy is as follows:

• She feels closed in when she thinks of where she sits in class (K).
• She hears the muffled sound of her teacher’s voice from the front of the room (A).
• She feels the frustration building in her (K).
• She can see herself being taken out of the room (V).

There is a sequence of sense systems in this strategy that go like this: K – A – K – V. This is what goes through her mind every time she walks into her classroom. What you need to do is help her change that strategy. The key in doing this is to make sure that the first sense system used is the primary sense system of your child, and then build from there. The new strategy could be something like this if she has visual as her primary sense system:

• Get her to visualize herself enjoying where she sits in class (V).
• Ask her to imagine hearing the birds chirping outside the window beside her (A).
• Have her feel the warmth from the classmates that sit near her (K).
• Have her see the classroom as a whole intimate setting, of which she is a part (V).

You have now changed her strategy to V – A – K – V. In effect, you have helped her adjust her filter, her perception about where she sits in the classroom. Her filter had been set to allow negative thoughts and feelings about her location in the room to dominate, and this was causing her negative behavior. Once you adjusted the filter to block the negative thoughts and emotions and let in the positive ones, she was able to see it in a new way and change her behavior.

Your child can use this tool to deal with any negative behavior, whether it is something related to school or the playground or getting a job. Once this tool is in her tool box, your child will have a lot more control over her negative behavior and her emotions.

I trust that this tool box strategy will greatly help you to coach your aspergers autistic child, just as well as with all other children, teens and even adult kids.

Have a wonderful week.

Rachael Mah-

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