Helping Your Teen To Succeed in School

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Every time your teen is confronted with a test, he cracks under the pressure. You know that your child is capable of so much more but you feel powerless to help.

It can be the most discouraging thing for a parent.

What if you could learn a simple alternative approach that would free your child from the anxiety that holds him back? In fact, by implementing a straightforward four-step process, your teen can overcome his fear of taking tests. Not only will he start to excel academically, but he will also begin to enjoy learning and going to school.

Assessing Your Teen’s Situation

All children and teens benefit from a healthy involvement on the part of their parents. By taking the time to observe your teen, you can figure out why he struggles in school.

If your teen’s grades suddenly begin to slip you might first want to assess the situation. Before you decide the best manner to help your child, take a closer look at what’s going on.

Is there a bigger problem you are not aware of?

Could he be having difficulties with a certain teacher or group of kids at school?

Does he perhaps suffer from depression?

Is the course load too overwhelming?

Does he need a tutor to help him through a particular subject?

Ask yourself if you are around for guidance if needed. Your teen might just require some assistance managing his workload.

Your child could also experience anxiety in the school environment, especially when required to take exams.

If your teen suffers from a fear of taking tests, you can help. In fact, by implementing a simple four-step process, you can eliminate your teen’s anxiety and get him back on track.

Changing Your Teen’s Thought Process

All of us implement certain “strategies” when confronted with a given situation. As Rachael Mah discusses in her Life Skills Tool Box, these strategies operate on basic sensory levels. By watching your teen’s behavior before faced with a test you can easily determine which strategies your teen is using.

For example, you see that your daughter looks anxious and downcast before gong to school on the day of an exam. Already her mind is programmed to implement the strategy that she is most familiar with. Clearly taking the test in a negative mood will have disastrous results. It is your job to then figure out the strategy that is holding your teen back and substitute it with a more helpful alternative.

How can I possible do that? you might wonder. You are not a psychologist or a mind reader….

Well, the solution is easier than you might suppose.

The strategy of the teen who struggles in school operates on a sensory level. It exists purely in his imagination but is very real nonetheless. We all know the power the mind has to control our actions. Those that approach life from a negative perspective will find success difficult or perhaps impossible. Alternatively, those who approach challenges with a positive attitude have a much better chance of succeeding.

But to change your teen’s thought process, you must first determine the primary sense system that he is using.

In Rachael Mah’s Life Skills Tool Box, she describes a skill called the eye- accessing cues. Eye accessing cues are nothing more than reading the eye and body language of your child to figure out the emotions and thoughts he is experiencing. By using this skill you can discover if the teen has a negative internal dialogue that works against him.

This dialogue or strategy will demonstrate itself on a sensory level and has a very specific pattern. The parent will next ask a few pointed questions to determine the order of her self-defeating thought process. The adult can then figure out the pattern of the student’s internal dialogue.

Hope you find this useful.

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